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She sounds a bit overprotective. It's not really a bad thing to be protective, but you should have your own freedom and space. You must feel like a caged bird, that totally sucks. :/ I suppose you have talked with her about it and told her that if something important comes up, she'll be like the first one to know. Ask her to trust you a little bit more and show her how trustworthy you are as she gives you the chance. I'm sure she's just trying to be a good parent and doesn't mean to make you feel miserable in anyway.
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well, its not that she's over-protective...she's just worried about me...due to...issues, in my past, i'm not a very trusting person, yet when i do, i tend to trust the wrong people and get hurt. she wants the best for me, thats all. yet she doesnt trust me...she still has this message from months ago when i got overly pissed and cussed her out cus she never keeps her promises...im like the rebel child compared to my sisters who always say they love her and crud...i dont love her, so i dont say it...i tolerate her
plus, she aint as bad as my friends mom who just let her start goin places alone (other than friends houses, goin places aka w/out an adult) and she has even tried drivin yet and she's gettin her permit in less than 2months. its crazy...though her moms ok, its her step-dad thats the prob XD
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I've had same sort of problems, like trusting the wrong kind... I still do. Because I believe nobody is completely evil and everyone deserves a chance. And because I believe that, I don't really get hurt that easily and I never become afraid of trusting and getting hurt all over again. I have gotten into big trouble because I trusted the wrong kind years ago, so I decided that my mother should meet the people I concider my trusted friends.
Anyways, not keeping her promises is not a good example for a child. If she wants to be able to trust you, she should first be able to earn your trust. Apparently she is having a tough time because she loves you a whole lot. Maybe she just isn't sure of the way how to deal with you because she knows you don't love her all that much.
All I can really do is throw in assumptions since I don't know enough of the facts, but I wish I could do something to help you out since your situation isn't too good. :/
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I don't think she loves me a whole lot, she is constantly telling me to go live with my dad or that I'm a screw-up and I need to learn to take up for myself and not be afraid of machines (I cant even call an automatic number I'm so scarred...I can only call gift card numbese or the EBT number cus I know those are automatic) She brought up the message again last night when I said she was an idiot (jokingly) about not takin me to see a movie and she was all "I still have that message you knkow. And I'm not going to forget it" then she made me get up from my seat so she could sit down and when i said ill just go to my room, her response was "No, you can stay down here, I was just gonna clean" yeah, like sittin on her *ss means cleaning. It just makes me so mad
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Great, maybe I'm not so dumb after all XD
I had this idea as I was thinking about this like it were my problem and what would I do in your situation. Most likely I'd be stressed out because I'm still a kid who misses her mother and I don't really think I still want to become and adult yet, I'd first treat it for a long while like it's nothing..then the stress would make me get mad at her. Arguments. She'd become even more annoying because of that and in the end I'd stop to think about it, maybe ask someone online a little opinions and advice how to deal with the situation.
I'd come up with a plan that would bring good for both of us and I'd become the perfect child no matter what. I'd do whatever my mother tells me and even if she was annoying me, I'd just take it and say nothing back (of course I wouldn't let it get to me). It wouldn't take too long until my mother would realize something's not right and she would be confused and maybe worried and she would talk with me and then I would tell her "I hate it when we don't get along, so I thought that if I treated you better, maybe you would love me too." and when she goes "whaaat? of course I love you!" then I'd make a tearful face and say "but I was so scared 'cause mommy made me feel I was no good." I'd totally bring out the mother-instinct and use it and my cunning mind to get what I want and that is; happiness and better life for me and my mother since that will make a happier family and a nicer home. Because, even if my situation was so bad I didn't really feel I love my mother, I would still respect her and be thankful she brought me into this world of miracles and took care of me up until today and will be taking care of me even if I'm already an adult.
But then again, if you were to try out what I thought I would do, it would mean you have to really want to do it or you'll fail. Since if you take the step and make yourself into the perfect child for until your mother realizes something's not right, even after you have really talked about things and if it succeeds, you still have to always remember to treat your mother better. That way you show "I've grown up enough to know how to respect others' feelings and I'm old enough to take responcibility and start doing something about it if things aren't right." Even if it didn't seem to work at first, I'm sure it would work little by little. And well...if the case were it wouldn't work out, then I would come up with another plan because I'm very stubborn.
haha, sounds like a good plan...except for the fact that'd mean i'd clean the whole house, babysit almost everyday, cook dinner, do the laundry and whole bunches of other fundamental things. XD
plus, she pays no mind to me as it is cus she has to take care of my sis who's pregnant and my lil bro who's autistic