Title: help me, i'm so scared
Description: fear after sexual assult
cat101 - July 13, 2006 07:22 AM (GMT)
ok now that i've warned everyone
My ex-boyfriebnd came to stay about 2 weeks ago and in the middle of the night he came into my room "to have sex with me". I was so disgusted i cant even say but he did sexually assult me and i'm hurting really badle now. I told my therapist and i saw a doctor(tramatic). I manage to tell my mum last nite but it was hard and she's not ver7y good with simpathy.
I am so scared and very anxious all the time
OhioAngel - July 13, 2006 07:46 AM (GMT)
Have you reported him to the authorities? I think the feelings of being scared and anxious are normal after something like this has occured. Continue to speak to your therapist about it and if you feel you need your moms support, ask her to come along to a therapy session with you, maybe it will help her know how to support you.
I believe you could also find support groups for SA.
I'm sorry to hear this happened. I am here if you need to talk.
Silently Broken - July 13, 2006 11:58 AM (GMT)
firstly, I'm so so sorry you had to go through that, I wouldn't wish it on anyone. we are all here for you.
Secondly, well done for telling your therapist and your doctor. Your mum was probably not that sympathetic because it is so hard to know what to say or how to act, especially when it's someone very close to you going through that.
It would be a good idea to report it, it's very hard to do though :hug:
invisible-one - July 13, 2006 01:23 PM (GMT)
I'm sorry that you had to go through that.
I'm really glad that you had the courage to tell your therapist and doctor, though. I know that's really difficult.
I agree with Sarah, people who know and love you don't always know how to react. Do you have a really close friend you can talk to about this? I kinda found that it was sometimes easier to talk to friends about it.
sunrisequeen - July 13, 2006 02:12 PM (GMT)
Its so sad that things like this continue to happen in the world. Its sad that victims are left to cope with the feelings they have and the culprit walks away unharmed (in most cases).
I'm sorry this happened to you.
It takes tons of courage to tell anyone what happened and I'm glad you did. Thats your first step to feeling better.
I agree with everyone here who said that your mother does not know how to react. It seems like she doesnt want to hurt you by saying the wrong thing.
Anxiety and fear are normal after something like this. Especially if you've been through this kind of thing before. Talking to your therapist is good. Dont be afraid to express completely how you feel. Its hard at first but it gets easier.
Its completely your choice if you want to report this. It'll feel a hell of a lot better and you'll be protecting others from this guy. But, we all know it takes A LOT of strength to do that. Its up to you.
If you ever need to talk, I'm here
Wishing you lots of strength :hug:
brokenrebel - July 14, 2006 03:02 AM (GMT)
Ok. Firstly, I'm awfully sorry you had to go through that. It is also something I would not wish upon anyone.
I'm glad you did manage to tell someone.
I agree with the others on what they say about your mother's reaction. I don't really have a comment on that.
I also agree with Amy, maybe find someone you can talk to about it. It'll help.
Also, you should try and tell the authorities about it. It's easier said than done, but you might find some closure in it when it's all said and done.
If you need to talk, you can always PM me. I may not always post a lot, but I do reply to PMs and the like, so feel free to.
RetardFairy - July 21, 2006 08:02 PM (GMT)
I am so sorry you had to go through that and I am very proud of you that you told your Mum. Have you told the police about your attack?You should do because your ex if sick. And he needs to be punished for what he did to you. Myabe you should try telling a friend and see if they react any differently. Your Mum's probably still in a state of shock.
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